The bird that flew into the house is seen by Mo’s mother as a sign. What do you think this omen meant?
What do you think of the interaction between Mo and Kalu’s mother?
In Chapter VIII, the family attends Ebun’s graduation ceremony. What do you make of them only finding out then and there that Ebun was head girl?
In the same chapter, Kemi (Ebun’s mother) says that until a woman marries, one can never be sure of what they will become. What do you think of this statement? Do you think that Ebun has proven what sort of person she will be?
Kalu’s mother wants him to meet the daughter of a family friend. What do you think of his mother trying to set him up despite telling her he isn’t interested?
When talking to Mo about Kalu, Ebun shares that if their relationship is love, she essentially wants no part of it. Do you think love scares her or just what it is doing to Mo in this moment?
Mrs K invites Mo out for a drink while Kalu is playing a football game with a friend. What do you think of this interaction, especially when combining it with the little detail Kalu provided about Amara?
Mo asks to meet Amara, since she and Kalu are simply friends. The interaction is tense and awkward. Do you think that Mo might be overreacting? What do you think of Kalu just dropping her off and leaving her to walk in by herself?
What do you think of Mo using Mama G’s powder?
In the next part we switch back to Eniiyi’s perspective. Zubby’s description mimics that of Kalu. Do you think Eniiyi and Zubby are destined to have the same fate as Mo and Kalu? Or do you think Eniiyi will be the one to break the curse?
11 responses to “Cursed Daughters – Day Four”
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1. She saw it as a bad sign. Her relationship with Golden Boy was clearly not a good sign.
2. I think Kalu’s mother was wrong to treat Mo that way. She was rude and entitled, but, she also claimed to be that way because she was looking out for her son. It’s hard to argue with that. Still, it was heartbreaking the way she treated Mo.
3. It has become clear that Ebun had spent a portion of her life in the shadow of her female relatives, including Mo. She was excelling without anyone noticing, and that is really sad.
4. Ebun has already proven an aspect of who she can be. She’s still got so much more to do, and so many years to live. Despite the Curse though, marriage is still very important in this family.
5. I think the actions of Kalu’s mother are really despicable, however, this is not an uncommon occurrence in many more traditional families.
6. Ebun had watched all the females in her family fall victim to the Curse. Her feelings are not without reason.
7. The interaction between Kalu’s mother and Mo at the cafe is disturbing. The mother has no intention of becoming friendly with Mo, and does not want her son marrying Mo at all. Her intentions are clear and it was cruel of her to invite Mo with false hope.
8. I don’t think Mo is overreacting. I wouldn’t be comfortable in that particular situation knowing the parents from both sides are trying to match make. And as for Kalu leaving Mo to walk to her house alone, I would be enraged if that was me.
9. I didn’t approve of Mo using the powder. Especially since she had so little faith in Mama G’s intentions, it felt wrong that she would suddenly decide to listen to her advice.
10. I have faith that Eniiyi will find some way to break the Curse. For some reason I don’t quite trust Zubby yet. Time will tell… -
1. I had no idea what this meant, and like Ebun, I thought it was just a random bird that had flown into the house by mistake.
2. Carl’s mother is entitled to want the best for her child, but the way she treated Mo was totally unacceptable.
3. This made me feel a bit sad, as it’s clear that Mo’s strong personality has overshadowed Ebun’s to the point where Ebun is excelling without their recognition.
4. I think this is true, but it’s not limited to marriages, any kind of change in life can transform a person. Ebun has shown her personality so far, and she seems like someone who keeps to herself.
5. It’s just a mother doing what she thinks is best for her child, but that doesn’t make it right.
6. It’s about the impact this specific situation is having on Mo – I think she might be losing herself in the process.
7. I actually predicted how the meeting would go, and I was spot on. Mrs K is determined to do what she thinks is best for her child, and nothing will stand in her way.
8. I don’t think Mo is overreacting, but the way she handled the meeting wasn’t the best approach. As for Kalu not walking her in, that really surprised me. However, given Mo’s behaviour, Kalu’s reaction is understandable.
9. Considering Mama G has told her she’ll need her one day, and how much she’s judged her mother, it’s quite ironic 😂.
10. I’m hoping Eniiyi is the one to break this curse.
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1. Someone in the house is about to die.
2. I wasn’t really surprised. Mothers like meddling, and choosing a wife for their sons.
3. They don’t really care. As long as she’s doing good in school. Everyone seems to be involved in their own stuff.
4. The statement is not true. She’s too young for all that. A person does not change because of marriage? Just if you don’t take your time learning all the hidden behaviours then you’ll be surprised, because you’ll be living with them everyday.
5. It was to be expected. Wives of big men like their children to marry people of certain classes.
6. She’s just seeing how Mo is behaving because of love.
7. I knew it was a setup. Mo shouldn’t have gone. The woman made it clear from day one that she does not like her for her son.
8. She’s not overreacting. Anyone in her shoes would react like that. What Kalu did was cold, though at the same time you kinda understand. He was probably just angry at Mo’s behaviour.
9. That had me laughing so hard. She was calling Mama G a scam at the beginning of the book. Desperate times call for desperate measures!
10. I’d love it if Eniiyi could be the one to break the curse. It has been going on for too long. -
1. I suppose it could be seen as an omen, and birds are usually messengers, so ….
2. So rude!
3. Also rude! Who doesn’t tell their family about head girl, etc?
4. Unless she’s referring to the things a woman may have to face with a man…
5. It’s clear his mother doesn’t approve of Mo, possibly because she is Yoruba and not Igbo.
6. I don’t think she has had a great example of love and is therefore sceptical.
7. She is trying to chase Mo away with intimidation tactics.
8. A girl has to see for herself. Rude and a little justified.
9. Desperate times call for desperate measures?
10. I hope so. -
– I think the bird inside is viewed as a bad omen perhaps of things to come.
– It’s hard to see Kalu’s mother behave so badly towards Mo.
– It shows how disengaged they are from Ebun’s life.
– I think its quite a profound statement that shows how much of a woman’s worth according to this family is tied up into their marriage.
– I think it shows that his mother does no respect his wishes nor does she like Mo very much.
– I think she worries about what “love” could mean if it brings out the worst in Mo and if it has hurt so many women in her life.
– Kalu’s mother has no intention of befriending Mo and wants nothing to do with her.
– I don’t think she is overreacting – I think she sees something between them. Kalu dropping her off signals that maybe he feels something for Amara.
– I think it shows how desperate she feels.
– I think we can expect something different with Eniiyi – she is the change maker. -
I think it might be a warning of what’s to come.
Her behaviour was unacceptable. She claims to be looking out for her son but she could’ve been nicer about it.
I think this just shows how closed off Ebun is but also kind of shows how preoccupied everyone is with their own lives that they don’t really care what goes on in the next person’s life.
This is an unfair statement. A marriage is not supposed to make you a person. Ebun is plenty capable without a man and had her eyes on her future and that’s evident in her present life.
This is not looking out for her son, this is her trying to rule is life. If she truly cared for him she would leave him be since he is happy with Mo.
I think Ebun has a fear of the curse, so she’d rather steer clear of love all together.
Kalu’s mother is honestly the worst. Instead of leaving the kids be she’s interfering and as a result Kalu and Mo’s relationship is also suffering.
Mo could have handled the situation better but I think Kalu should’ve also been more understanding of how she felt in that moment and reassured her instead of just leaving her.
This was an odd turn of events as she has always been against it, but I also understands that she’s desperate.
I think their relationship will be the one to set things right. This is Mo and Kalu’s second chance.
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I think it was a sign to say she shouldn’t be in a relationship with the dude. But it could also be nothing. People find reason in everything and sometimes things just are.
It was unnecessary in my view. I think you can look out for your kids without being a rude human being.
I think this is why the whole Eniiyi is Mo annoys me so much. It seems like Ebun and everything that comes of her is mid, or not as important as the ‘achievements’ of the other women in her family. She is a brilliant woman who has been overlooked and reduced and now they want to do the same to her daughter?? Reducing her to I’ve come again Mo. Girl, stop. That’s wilder than wild.
Kalu’s mother is wild. I honestly cannot. Like lady yes you’re being protective of your son but can you also have some class about it.
There is a phrase: we are all fools in love. I think that’s what’s being played out her. Love is incredible but you shouldn’t love anyone. You do need to guard your heart, and you shouldn’t awaken love before its time because that’s when okes lose their minds and act a fool.
Mo shouldn’t have gone. I will never understand why people want to make others feel like they aren’t good enough, be it because of status, social standing or tribe. It baffles me. I think it’s so bizarre.
Not an overreaction at all. He should have been more supportive but I also understand that it’s difficult to navigate this sort of interaction.
It was humorous for sure! Not her saying this is bollocks and then saying blimey I hope it works. I was dead.
You lot know I want her to break the curse. I believe she can!
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1. It seems to be a sign as the windows were barred and a picture of Mo fell over and shattered in the chaos.
2. Clearly a very terse interaction. Kalu’s mom is seemingly very judgemental and disapproves of Mo and Kalu’s relationship. She makes Mo feel embarrassed and insignificant.
3. I think Ebun knew that telling them about her accomplishments wouldn’t mean much especially by her mother and aunties. But I also get the sense that it’s just Ebun’s personality; not boastful?
4. It seems they value a woman’s worth by her marriage status.
It is also previously mentioned that Ebun is a feminist so I believe she’ll definitely want to set her own path and values, and not what her family would require of her.5. Kalu’s mother seems to be very controlling and wants things done her/the family way.
6. Ebun doesn’t want to be so consumed by love that she loses a part of herself, as it seems that all Mo can think about is Golden Boy and nothing/nobody else.
7. Simply a scare tactic to get rid of Mo because handpicked partners chosen by parents are usually more favorable than one’s own choice. And Mrs K has already made up her mind that Amara is the better fit for her son because of their family connections
8. There’s definitely some cracks starting to form in their relationship. At this point, I think Mo should have reasons for concern regarding Amara and Kalu’s friendship but I’d need a bit more to go on before making a final statement on it.
9. For someone that strongly didn’t believe in the curse this just goes to show how desperate Mo has become in keeping someone she believes could be the one – resorting to juju.
10. It’s too early to tell but I have a feeling Eniiyi is going to be the one to break the curse.
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1) I thought it was a sign/warning that something bad is coming/going to happen.
2) Kalu’s mother was rude and entitled. I understand that she only wants to protect her child but her approach and behavior was uncalled for.
3) It was honestly sad that they never showed interest in how she is performing at school. Her achievements and excelling at school should have been praised and celebrated more but she basically lived in the shadows.
4) I think every aspect in life can influence who a woman will become and marriage is no exception. Ebun’s character is clearly defined throughout the novel. She is headstrong and determined.
5) I’m honestly not surprised as mothers tend to meddle a lot in their son’s lives; and even though their intentions might be good their execution is very lacking. So is the case with Kalu’s mother.
6) Ebun can see how Mo is being affected and she knows all too well how the woman of their family have been affected by the curse so her feelings are valid.
7) Mo should have known better that it was a set up based of how their first interaction went. Mrs K just wants what’s best for Kalu and she’s convinced that it isn’t Mo.
8) Mo is definitely not overreacting. Kalu was wrong but given the circumstances you have to give him some grace because of Mo behaviour.
9) It’s actually quiet comical how she vehemently disproves of Mama G’s tactics but she’s so desperate that she’s willing to try anything.
10) I do think that they’re destined to share a similar fate but I’m hopeful that Eniiyi will find a way to break the curse.
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1. I personally also don’t think it’s a good sign for birds to fly inside the house. So I definitely believe that it was a bad omen, signalling that something bad was looming.
2. I think most mothers would react this way to a girl coming to their house for to meet their son. But I also think she didn’t have to be as harsh as she was. Mo was after all just a child.
3. It seems everything was mostly about Mo and no one really paid any attention to Ebun and that’s just heartbreaking.
4. Honestly why must marriage always be the goal? Why can’t it be enough for women to just be women? Why must your character be based on what you can do for a men and if he can marry you and stay with you. I hate that. Ebun was doing so well for herself but they didn’t give her any credit for all that.
5. That’s the thing about parents like Mrs Kenosi they care not about your feelings and what you want but about the life that they want for you. That level of control is just crazy.
6. I guess she knows how bad it can get and she doesn’t want that for Mo. She’s seen how bad it can get through their mothers.
7. Mrs Kenosi wanted it to look like she liked Mo and was trying but it was only to set the record straight with her and possibly scare her away.
8. Honestly Mo had no business meeting with Amara only to be disrespected as she was.
9. I guess once you know how bad it can get you will restore to things that you have said you don’t believe it. It was just an act of faith, trying something to keep what she didn’t want to lose.
10. I strongly believe that Eniiyi might just be the one to break the curse.
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DAY FOUR
It’s a bad omen, bad things are about to happen or are happening already.
As a mother it is normal to want the best for your child, but Kalu’s mother went too far, the way she treated Mo was totally inappropriate. She painted Mo as a bad girl from the onset.
A lot turns to go wrong in this family, Ebun wanted to shield some information and keep to her, some form of privacy without being told how to act or behave.
I think that’s just an old people statement, lots of women have defined and proved themselves perfectly without getting married and Ebun is one of them, excelling at school and having ambitions of going to varsity.
A common African practice, especially from well off families, they want their kids to be married to families with the same status as them and as such they tend to arrange marriage/partner for them.
Not love per se but what love is doing to Mo, she wants no part of such sufferings. According to her Mo is suffering and that is something wants no part of.
It is very clear what Mrs K’s intentions are, she wants to get rid of Mo and she sees her as no fit for Kalu. Amara is the girl she prefers as daughter in law that’s the intention here.
I think Mo’s reactions were valid, no one would be comfortable with the situation that Kalu has put more through and him dropping her off like just made things even worse.
I think it was a desperate move, her last attempt in trying to win over Kalu. For someone who didn’t believe in the curse it was a surprise to see her move like that.
I really think Eniiyi is about to break this curse, there might similarly features for Zubby a bit I think she might be the white sheep that frees this family from this torture.
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