[T]he pleasure was in sitting next to her daughter, the warmth of her daughter, so known and yet so new
When Kadi wished for Binta to have a father and informed her of this, Binta is surprised. Do you think women often subconsciously underplay how well they parent, especially in single parent households, because we are taught through media and texts that a whole family is best?
In the conversation with Omelogor, Omelogor refers to Kadi as fearless. Do you think that up until this point, Kadi was not aware of how fearless she was? Is it because her fearless nature appeared different to that of Omelogor and her sister Binta?
What do you think of Omelogor’s bank giving grants? Do you think there is more to it that Omelogor is saying?
What starts off as a good day and one Kadi is excited to spend with her daughter, turns into a day full of horrors. This experience is much like her previous one where Kadi is left with little choice. However, this time is different. Kadi has help. Men with power often get away with doing what they want. Do you think the VIP will face justice, even if it not necessarily given by a judge?
What do you think of the procedure Kadi had to endure for her case? Do you think this care is given to everyone? Or is this a reflection of what some dream a procedure would be like?
Kadi is shocked to see her attacker on the TV. What do you think the man’s job is?
What do you think of all the attention that has bee placed on Kadi. One of her cousins says that they didn’t know Kadi “has this kind of ambition”. Why would Kadi’s relatives assume she is lying? Why does the world rip women apart who do come forward with their stories?
Chia was under the impression that the prosecutor would be there to help Kadi but as we read on, we see that is not the case. Why do you think Chia has this blind faith. Why do you think the prosecutor is trying to find holes in Kadi’s story and undermining her asylum seeking from many years ago?
Do you think Kadi and the other women will get their justice?
9 responses to “Dream Count – Day Six”
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I even think when you co-parent you still question if you are being a good parent to your child/children. As a single parent it is much harder if you don’t have a support system.
Kadi in some ways wanted to be more like Binta (sister) to be more out going. in her quite nature see what she had already injured, she is a very strong women.
Yes there could be, it did seem a little suspicious. it may just be there business model.
I really hope he does, he is a powerful man and may be able to pull strings.
It felt like standard protocol to me. I just felt so sorry for her having to relive the experience multiply times, also I was surprised she was interviewed by males, I felt she should of only had female cops and doctors as it was sexual assault.
I think the man is probably a politician that’s why he was on TV.
The world is a strange place especially when dealing with people who are less fortunate. they seem to exploit those that can’t defend themselves.
The prosecutor is supposed to be on Kadi’s side so it’s understandable the Chai would expect him to help her. He was a terrible man who was only out to destroy Kadi rather than defend her.
I was really hoping she would but with a prosecutor like the one assigned to her I think it is unlikely.
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1. Women may subconsciously downplay their ability to parent solo due to societal expectations rooted in traditional nuclear family ideals, perpetuated by media, social norms, and historical context. Binta’s response warmed my heart; she’s a remarkable young woman.
2. Kadi’ wasn’t aware of her own fearlessness due to her initial understanding of what being fearless meant. She put Binta on a pedestal, believing she couldn’t measure up to her sister’s courage.
3. When I read about Omelogor’s bank giving grants, I questioned the truth behind it. I suspected Omelogor might be sponsoring Kadi’ anonymously.
4. Given the attention surrounding the case, I believe the VIP will face consequences, even if it’s not through the justice system. That scene broke my heart, especially Kadi’s gratitude for the support, despite not thinking it was necessary.
5. Although I’m unsure of the man’s exact position, I suspect he’s someone influential in society, possibly a politician. This assumption is based on how people reacted to Kadi’s accusation.
6. Society often tears apart women who share their stories of sexual assault due to systemic issues like victim-blaming, misogyny, and rape culture. This can lead to survivors being met with skepticism, shame, and even harassment, rather than support and belief.
7. My assumption might be far-fetched, but Chia trusted the prosecutor to support Kadi’. Given the VIP’s influence and horrific behavior, it’s possible that corruption, like bribery, might be involved.
8. I believe Kadi’ and the other woman will find justice, although I doubt it will come through the justice system.
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1. Yes. There’s often this idea that children need both parents to thrive, but that’s not always true. Women, especially single mothers, sometimes doubt themselves because of societal expectations, even when they’re doing an amazing job.
2. Definitely. Kadi’s version of fearlessness is different—hers comes from survival, duty, and perseverance, while Omelogor and Binta may express it more boldly. That’s why she was so surprised to hear it.
3. It does seem a little too convenient. Kadi didn’t even have to go through an application process, which makes me wonder if there’s something else behind it.
4. If the judge rules in his favor, public backlash could still hold him accountable. But it depends on how much power and influence he really has.
5. It likely depends on who’s handling the case—some professionals genuinely care, while others might not take it as seriously. Unfortunately, not everyone gets the same level of support.
6. Some kind of government official—his power and connections explain why he thought he could act without consequences.
7. They see her as the same dutiful Kadi who followed tradition and didn’t think she’d survive in America. Now that she’s sending money home, they assume she must be doing something dishonest to afford it. As for women being torn apart—it’s because people find it easier to question victims than to hold powerful men accountable.
8. Chia likely believes in the system and assumes justice will be served, but reality is often different. As for the prosecutor, there’s a good chance they were influenced—or even paid—by the VIP’s people to discredit Kadi.
9. I hope so. The more women who speak out, the harder it’ll be to ignore them.
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1. I think she thought she was not doing a good enough job. Very normal for someone like her who is conditioned to believe that things are only good if done a particular way but from how Binta turned out I must applaud Kadi for her great parenting.
2. I definitely think she doesn’t know her greatness and always sees herself as weak. She wanted so much to be like other people that she couldn’t see how great of a person she is and how strong and resilient she is.
3. no bank will give you money just because they can. There is definitely a catch to it that Omelogor isn’t declaring.
4. I think if it’s not given by a judge the VIP might just get away with it.
5. I think not everyone is given this much care. A lot of people don’t even get past the reporting stage. What helped her is the support she got.
6. I never really thought of what his job would be I just thought he was someone very wealthy maybe a business man of sorts that is well known in the community for his work and affliction with other VIP.
7. Unfortunately when someone considers a “no body” is up against a wealthy person the “no body” is rarely ever believed or taken seriously. They thought she’s just using this man to get money off of him. Also people always think very highly of wealthy people to a point were they think they can do no wrong.
8. The prosecutor is not on Kadi’s side and I’m glad she saw that from the beginning but unfortunately he was too calculative. He did this so as to make her give up on perusing the case. To make her feel like she has done some bad things too and thus she deserves what this man has done to her. Truly that prosecutor ranks as part of my least favourite characters. What an evil man.
9. I really hope they do but judging by how this book is going I don’t think so. -
I think men and women have different strengths, both required to raise a child. To play both roles can take a toll on a parent. Parents need to share the load, because kids are a lot, lol.
Ofc there is more to them than just giving grants. When it comes to money people lose themselves, finding all sorts of loop holes, and strategies to line their pockets.
This incident was horrific and the way that the media and public responded to her ordeal was disappointing. Unfortunately, this is the reality even today. I do think he will pay for the offence committed, whether its before the courts or not, remains to be seen. The treatment and care Kadi got up until the prosecutor, is exactly how every situation like this should be handled. Blimey, it’s traumatic and then you have to deal with people not believing you, if you would willingly endure such trauma. Wild.
I don’t have an answer for why the world does that, it breaks my brain every single time.
I don’t know why he behaved so poorly, to constantly ask her again and again and then say aha, so you lied on your application is a heh moment??? How is the crime committed to her body and her asylum related! What happened was illegal and that should be the prosecutors focus. I think in general people like to say if this person was here illegally, then suddenly they lose their humanity. How??
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1. I think it’s more than subconscious, hearing something constantly it become ingrained in you. You think you won’t manage that you’re not enough.
2. Fearless can be viewed in so many forms, it’s not always about doing dangerous things like climbing tall trees or saying things and I don’t think Kadi thought of herself as fearless because hers was internal.
3. I think it can be a good thing, but it depends on the legalities. I do think so.
4. I certainly hope so.
5. The procedure was horrible, constantly having to relive it. I don’t think everyone is given the same level of care unfortunately.
6. I think he’s a politician or royal of some sort.
7. I don’t think the attention is fair, and her family are horrible, this is not “ambition” or something to go after/seek. I don’t know why the world comes after women who tells their stories, it’s the way it is, and it’s not something that should be accepted as such.
8. Everyone likes to believe in justice and equality and that the people in higher up positions will help us. The prosecutor is trying to see if she’s been in a similar situation before and what she’s seeking to do with her story.
9. I hope so. All woman deserve justice. But given how things go, I doubt it.
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1. It’s ironic how mothers underplay their parenting, as they are often the primary caregivers even in 2-parent households. The pervasive nuclear family ideal is not female-friendly at all! Mothers must seek father-figures for their children, purely because men are seen as more authoritative (another myth). Kadi’s wish could also just be a projection of her own life experience: her father would have been more sympathetic than Bappa Moussa ever was, as someone just haphazardly thrust into gathering her and her sister.
2. Absolutely! Often, quiet bravery is ignored for the more brash, in-your-face kind of bravery. I can see how Kadiatou has not realised her fearlessness: it is very different to what she considers brave. She was always in awe of her sister Binta and fashioned her idea of fearlessness on her.
3. Everything we know about Omelogor this far leads me to believe that there is more to the grants…
4. I do not believe Kadi’s attacker will face any justice: court-mandated, or otherwise. Powerful men always get away with doing whatever they want, leaving a trail of destruction in their wake. I hope that I am being jaded, but experience says otherwise.
5. I don’t think everyone receives the same treatment/care in similar circumstance. It really depends on the official handling the case, which is unfair.
6. I think Kadi’s attacker is highly influential, possibly a politician or high-ranking member of some parliament.
7. People usually assume that there is monetary gain when someone powerful and/or influential is accused of assault. The assumption is that the accusation is purely financial. For someone like Kadi, this level of scrutiny is purely anguish! She is baffled and frightened by all this attention.
8. Chia is very coddled. Any “real-world” experience she has is through rose-colored lenses. Her standing in life automatically gives her this blind faith. I assume the prosecutor wants to find any information about Kadi which would undermine their case. This is about a quick-win and not about justice.
9. From everything we have read so far, I doubt justice will be forthcoming: social or judicial.
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Yes, societal narratives often prioritize two-parent households, leading single mothers to doubt their adequacy despite their strength and dedication.
Omelogor refers to Kadi as fearless. Kadi may not have recognized her own courage because it manifested differently from Omelogor’s and Binta’s. Her survival and resilience were acts of bravery, even if she didn’t see them that way.
There might be hidden motives behind the grants—potentially corporate interests, political gain, or personal agendas Omelogor isn’t revealing.
Powerful men often evade accountability, but Kadi’s support system may help ensure some form of justice, even if not through the legal system.
Not everyone receives the same level of care. Kadi’s experience might reflect an idealized process, contrasting with the often dismissive treatment many victims face.
Kadi is shocked to see her attacker on the TV. Given his presence on TV, he likely holds a high-profile position—possibly in politics, business, or media—explaining his sense of impunity.
Victims are often disbelieved due to societal biases and the desire to maintain the status quo. Kadi’s relatives, like many, assume ambition rather than truth drives her, reflecting the world’s tendency to discredit women who speak up.
Chia likely trusts institutions more than reality warrants. The prosecutor, instead of seeking justice, is invested in discrediting Kadi, possibly due to systemic biases or political pressures.
Justice is uncertain. The system rarely favours survivors, but collective action and public pressure could lead to some accountability.
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1. Yes! I definitely think so. While having two parents is probably the best (especially for the parent’s sake), I do believe single parents often don’t realize how amazing they are doing and how well their children are with only one parent. On top of that, Kadiatou is a woman living in a world where women are taught to undervalue their efforts and abilities.
2. Yes. There are different ways to be strong and fearless.
3. Probably. But I trust Omelogor. It is clear she is all for the financial (and other) empowerment of women. Even if something sus is going on, I know Omelogor will look out for Kadi.
4. I doubt he’ll face justice with the law BUT I HOPE- NO, NEED HIM TO FACE JUSTICE IN SOME WAY !!!
5. I guess it really depends on who you’re dealing with. Some people are wonderfully caring, others are cold and insensitive.
6. Something big and important. I don’t really care what he does, he is a despicable man.
7. This is something I have always wondered. Why is it always so easy to believe men but never easy to believe women???? Why are women always treated as “guilty until proven innocent” AND EVEN THEN, still not given the fair treatment they deserve??? Our society sucks.
8. Chia is easily trusting, but also, the prosecutor SHOULD have been on her side. That’s his job. But I feel like he was racist, xenophobic or maybe just a woman-hater. Either way, Kadiatou was done a disservice by having him.
9. If this story is anything like reality, I don’t think so. And that makes me so mad and sad! 🙁
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